"Soup of the Day"...just got serious!
Mother’s Day is tough for some of us. Maybe you’re struggling to conceive. Perhaps you recently lost or are losing a parent. Maybe you’re estranged from your mother. Maybe you have lost a child.
I promise the entire blog isn’t sad. Besides it’s okay to be sad. When my mother was dying, she used to say: “This is not a tragedy. If one of my grandchildren was dying, that would be tragic.” I thought that was a very generous statement. And I thought there was quite a bit of truth in it. I repeated her words at her memorial service.
Months later, I was furious with myself. I’d lost my Mom. It was heart wrenchingly tragic. I never should have said it wasn’t. Ironically, the thing that still makes me saddest is not being able to be a Mom with my Mom. My boys were 2 and less than 1 when she died. She never really got to know them. They never really met her. And I never really got the chance to connect with her about the frustrations and miracles that fill my days because of them.
Emotions can be fleeting. Anger, joy, frustration, contentment, sadness. These exist on a continuum so that we experience them in different degrees, and the less intense versions are easier to let go of.
Tragedy can be a different animal. I think – as I mentioned last week – that a tragic experience such as the loss of a person – is never fleeting. It never actually goes away. I also think it can ebb and flow. I think like fleeting emotions it can exist in different degrees on a continuum. And I’m certain it can coexist with other emotions. Even or especially ones that seems counterintuitive.
My Mom was wrong: It was a tragedy to lose her. But directly within that tragedy there were and are so many incredible things to be grateful for. These things can and often do exist together. A different mother maybe wouldn’t have developed cancer. But a different mom wouldn’t have brought so many other things to the table. As with people, we can’t pick and choose bits and pieces from our lives and embrace some while discarding others. We experience the whole thing. Tragedy is not just inevitable, it comes – ultimately – with gifts. Try not to lose sight of either.
I had a mom I loved so, so, so much. I had a shorter life with her than I wanted but the life I did have was awesome. My mom taught me how to be a great mom. She demonstrated how precious and life altering children are and, in fact, was one of the biggest influencers in my decision to ultimately have children of my own.
Tomorrow I will be sad, happy, angry, and mostly grateful. I will be so thankful for my little guys and so thankful for my Mom. And I will send affection and strength out into the universe, to all of you who are also feeling so many different emotions today. Life isn’t easy. But it sure is incredible.
Inspiration of the Day
“Live a life where you make the world a little bit better for others. When you’re feeling overwhelmed, get out of bed in the morning and simply start breathing in and out. That’s a great first step. And one more thing: don’t take yourself too seriously.” – Judith Todd-Taylor (Meg’s Mom)
Class of the Day
It’s Saturday – I think… – and that means it’s time for another TNT class!
Join Lori this morning for this high energy, challenging class, designed to turn you into a lean, mean, fat burning machine.
Class begins at 11:15 and will last 50 minutes.
Click here to join the class.
Meeting ID: 881 5708 6530
Next Week’s Classes
Don’t miss a single one of our virtual classes next week! Click here to check out our schedule for the week.
If you have questions about our virtual classes, please reach out to Lauren.
Trainer Moves of the Day
Saturdays are meant for fun! Join Shara Brown and Stephanie Schreiber for some playful Pilates in the park!
Have questions about these moves? Reach out to Stephanie directly.
Martha's Bite of the Day
Smoked Salmon Goat Cheese Strata
Stratas are basically a fancy bread pudding, and always feature prominently on our Mother’s Day brunch menu at Stratus. This year many of us will have to celebrate our mothers in a different way, and since this brunch item travels well, it can be delivered to mom’s doorstep. You can bake ahead and reheat in the morning, or assemble the night before (minus the royale) and finish in the morning. If smoked salmon or goat cheese aren’t mom’s thing, simply substitute other savoury items. I usually make my stratas the same way as I would build a lasagna, layer by layer, then pour the royale over the finished layers.
- 8 large eggs
- 500 ml whole milk
- 2 tbsp Dijon or grainy mustard
- 1 tbsp kosher salt
- 2 tbsp each chives, tarragon, parsley (well washed and chopped)
- 1/2 Pullman loaf (I love Blackbird bakery) sliced, and slightly staled
- 1 x 10 oz package frozen spinach - defrost, drain well of excess water, and chop
- 250 g smoked salmon
- 2 leeks (white and pale green only) cut in half lengthwise, then chopped into 1/2 moons. Wash these well as they can be very gritty. Blanch and shock in ice water.
- 250 g goat cheese
- Fresh herbs (tarragon)
- Pre-heat oven to 350oF.
- Make the royale, beat the eggs with the mustard and salt. Add the milk and the herbs.
- Butter well a 8 x 8 baking dish.
- Start the bottom with a layer of bread, then work your way up with smoked salmon, leeks, spinach, goat cheese. Keep building the layers, finishing with your bread. Reserve some of the goat cheese for the final baking. The number of layers will depend on how deep your dish is, and how thick your bread is when sliced.
- Pour your royale mix over the strata, reserving some liquid. Press down and allow the liquid to be fully absorbed. If you need more liquid pour over and press again.
- Cover and bake for 30 minutes, uncover and crumble more goat cheese on top and return to the oven for approximately 20 more minutes. To test, insert a knife, if it comes out clean (and hot) you are good to go.
- Allow to rest for at least 10 minutes before slicing and serving. It is great on its own, with a simple green salad, or even better with local asparagus that is now in season.
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